“The biggest mistake we make is that we build our homes in other people. We build those homes and we decorate them with love and care and respect that makes us feel safe at the end of the day. We invest in other people, and we evaluate our self-worth based on how much those homes welcome us. But what many many don’t realize is that when you build your home in other people, you give them the power to make you homeless. When those people walk away, those homes walk away with them, and all of a sudden, we feel empty because everything that we had within us, we put into them. We trusted someone else with pieces of us. The emptiness we feel doesn’t mean we have nothing to give, or that we have nothing within us. It’s just that we built our home in the wrong place,” says in the book Welcome Home (2021) by Najwa Zebian. This paragraph brings you to the inner value and self-worth to that people should have achieved. Being happy is not a thing donated by others. And many people think that having happiness in life is a sin. This is a basic need that every person has to occupy by nature itself.
The notion of being happy only depend on your attitude and outlook of you. Never give the key to your happiness to others. Whomever they are, how much they are closer to you, never build your home of happiness in them. If you do, you can be happy for a week or till a particular point in time. But for the time being, you may fall into the abyss of desperation. You will be expecting more from others. But your ‘homes’ cannot make satisfy you. Do not allow others to bring beauty and happiness to you. It happens often in our lives, which results in sorrow and anxiety always. Confiding in others for happiness is a dangerous thing. It may be helpful initially. The person whom we depend on cannot always talk and act according to your will and likes. That will cause a dull and worn-out relationship and life. Hence let happiness comes from your own heart.
Make home into yourselves. Do not wait for huge scales of happiness. It can be a sunrise, or an evening coffee in your favourite cafe, or a meeting with your favorite one. “Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is,” says Maxim Gorky in his work The Lower Depths and Other Plays. Use your ‘me time’ in a better way to understand your self-worth.
Let’s also not take sorrow because of someone else’s weaknesses. We become disappointed when someone does not fulfill their promises, we become annoyed ourselves when our ‘homes’ become angry. We become peaceless someone else’s restlessness. So who is influenced by whom here?
It’s the time to rebuild your home in you only. Happiness is your innate treasure surely you can share it, but no need to be a dependent for a lifetime. So build your home into You..!
Sunisha V.F.Â