As the years pass, your relationship with your partner must be full of sweetness and sourness. Don’t you remember how you talked to your husband when you both fell in love at first? Instead of waiting for his coming back the way you begin your life and love, you should be the initiator and restart that loving habit.
You have the ability to make your spouse feel well more than anyone else. Your compliments and praise can work out more than anyone else’s.
When you talk up your husband, you are building him up and lighting him up. You may also be healing some parts of your heart that have started to close off.
Practice Ephesians 4:29 daily and “Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them”
In a marriage, the most frustrating matter is keeping unrealistic expectations from the partner. Every wife has expectations when she marries. And then later she either raises them, refuses to lower them, or loses them altogether.
But when you keep in mind your husband is a man, not God, he has his faults like you, and he operates well after being fed and having time to relax, you won’t be as disappointed.
You should always keep humane thoughts on him. Give your husband emotional space by looking to God to be your spiritual husband (Isaiah 54:5). It’s a way of saying, “I love you, but I’m not expecting you to be God.”
Let God meet your emotional needs by keeping realistic expectations of your husband. You should act as a gift that makes him feel special.
There are days your husband passes through his dull and difficult to endure. Be his cheerleader with affirming words like “Go get ‘em,” “I believe in you!” or “You can do this!” Many times a man’s belief in himself is directly proportionate to his wife’s belief in him. Treat him special by raising his confidence level with your encouraging words.
Rest and relaxation are not laziness. It’s a basic necessity. Let him relax and get away from all tensions and worries of his professional life. Encourage him to relax now and then if he feels guilty for doing so.
Who doesn’t want to be fully known by someone? It is good to know each other. The more you know about your husband, the more you can connect with him and reach his heart.
The more you know about him the more you can follow the Bible’s admonition of “being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind” (Philippians 2:3). And that is a wonderful way to treat him special.
Treat your husband special by practicing 1 Corinthians 13:7 and be one who “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” for God’s glory. Your promise as you do this is that “love never fails” (verse 8). That is what it means to love your spouse as God loves you.
Your husband really wants to be your hero. He wants you to not only notice the risks or sacrifices he makes for his family, but he wants you to admire him for it, too.
Let him know you are proud of him for the things that he does, or simply for who he is, is not stroking his pride, building his ego, or make him vain. It is an assurance that his wife notices the efforts he has been making and appreciates him for it. More than just a “thank you,” try saying “I’m proud of you.”
Say it in front of your children and it will make them feel extra special. It may even build his confidence as a provider and as a man. And it will make him feel special.