Love is a reaction to feeling trust in somebody or something. Trust is made up of actions and open communication. Having open communication of our feelings keeps us to be open up our minds. Without communication, there is no trust and no trust turns love into possession.
Possessing our partner or things can make us think we feel trusted and loved without us actually doing the work. Possessing can lead us to hold tightly to someone or something that is failing. Thus clouding our judgment and starting the slippery rabbit trails of jealousy, neediness, and low self-esteem. Leading to a possible path of infidelity and an unfulfilled relationship.
How Can You Handle a Possessive Partner?
They might be possessive of you, but they are good people. You care about your partner, and there are ways to manage your friend or partner’s possessiveness. You can help them and develop a healthy relationship that both can enjoy.
Here are some tips you can use.
Sitting together and having a conversation about your feelings can give you a better feeling. Tell them it has created emotional distress and is hurting your relationship. Try to see why they feel the need to become possessive and work on them together.
You might begin to feel better when you find the cause of their behavior. Work on it and if needed, ask them to seek help from a psychologist. You can join them for the sessions because it might help the therapist understand more about your friend or partner and the kind of your relationship.
Shouting at them will not help and it may cause harm to your relationship. Understand that you are trying to make your relationship better. So shouting will only create more problems.
Be nice to them and share how you feel because it can help them understand you as well.
Your partner must understand that you don’t feel comfortable when they go through your personal affairs. Sometimes they may go through your mobile phones or decide who to talk to. Your need for space is a valid demand to them and it should be appreciated. They must learn to trust you and be comfortable when you become close to another person.
You can try to show them that you mean a lot to them, and you both can have a fantastic future together. Tell them you care about them and mean a lot to you. That their possessive behavior might drive you away.
A person being possessive of a thing or person is not healthy. We, as human beings, are possessive. It becomes annoying when a person crosses the line. It is a selfish act and can relationships to end on a sour note.