Happiness is an internal feeling. Yet, many people search for happiness in external situations. Individuals may believe that happiness is a “forever” state of being. However, as an emotion and not a state of being, happiness only lasts around ten minutes and can be recurring throughout the day.
If you are struggling to find happiness, here are some ways to
1. Realize that Perfection May Not Be Possible
Complete perfection in life is not an easy matter. This expectation of completeness may reduce your moments of happiness. As mistakes are often a part of being human, having a perfectionist outlook may make you more prone to self-criticism, which could lower self-esteem and increase feelings of sadness, guilt, shame, or other unwanted emotions. Accepting mistakes can help you feel more moments of joy. In addition, studies show that those who take healthy risks are often happier in life.
2. Learn to Forgive
Forgiving yourself is a cause of bitterness. However, feeling happy when you are angry can be difficult. Even if you choose not to forget the situation or forgive the people involved, taking specific steps to move forward from the incident can be beneficial. Working through resentment can be a form of self-care, and forgiveness is a choice.
There may be times when the person you struggle to forgive is yourself. If you live with guilt or shame over any “wrongs” you believe you’ve caused for others, examine the circumstances and try to make changes. Ask for forgiveness from others if you need to; regardless of how they respond, consider forgiving yourself. If you have made a mistake you cannot repair, forgiving yourself can help you feel safe, cared for, and comfortable as you work to improve – and you may end up feeling happier as a result.
3. Be with other People
Shifting the focus from your mental state may improve your mood. Studies suggest that happiness is contagious, so being around happy people and their positive emotions can help you as you pursue happiness. Connecting with friends or family, or having a best friend to go through life with, may help you find joy.
Volunteering may also help you find happiness. When you can commit to making others happy, it can have a positive impact on your well-being. In addition, offering gratitude and kindness can make you feel a sense of purpose or meaning in the lives of others.