“Marriage is always a gift! Conjugal fidelity rests on divine fidelity; conjugal fruitfulness rests on divine fruitfulness.”
“Marital love is inseparable from marriage itself, in which fragile and limited human love meets divine love, which is always faithful and merciful,” This is what Pope Francis says about marriage and married life.
The vast majority of people enter marriage with the intention that it will last a lifetime. However, nowadays the number of divorces is very high. There are many problems that couples face in modern times. However, here are some of the stresses and strains faced by couples and some ways to overcome them.
1. Anxiety about Global Instability
News around the globe has access to our lives at any time. Therefore, there is a possibility of creating more anxiety when knowing the global news.
Things from wars and conflicts to environmental problems can cause us constant insecurity and stress. This directly affects our mental health, as well as our relationships.
While it’s important to be informed about what’s going on in the world, it’s good to be a little averse to the world’s news when you’re in a bit of a rut. Talk to your partner about happy things.
2. Financial Stresses
There is no doubt that financial problems can cause arguments and stress in couples. Here’s what to watch out for when the rise in the cost of living increases our responsibilities: First, it’s essential to raise the issue of money and know the financial situation of the couple’s family. It is also important to create a family budget that meets the expectations of both partners.
3. Technology and Smartphones
Smartphones are one of the biggest culprits in causing stress in marriages. You can use your phone to shop, watch movies, order food, and remind yourself of prayer times. But having the phone in our hands all the time can harm relationships.
In short, switch off your phone to experience the change. Everyone knows this is hard to do. If you make a concerted effort to set aside hours where both husbands and wives put their phones on silent, that’s a great start. Turn off your smartphones for a few hours and then be together.
4. Social Media
One of the biggest problems with social media is that it creates unrealistic expectations. If you scroll through your feed, you’ll see endless posts of ‘everything perfect’ couples with clean homes, happy kids, fit bodies, lovingly prepared meals and jobs that allow them to spend endless vacations in beautiful places. Even though we know that none of this is reality, we have such expectations about life because there is always green on the other side. But the reality is that we should appreciate what we have.
The most important thing is to avoid social media altogether. Failing that, try to be more discerning about who you follow. Look for people who are truly positive influences in your life and use your discernment to approach things practically.
5. Trust
While some couples share accounts to create a transparent practice of social media use, others happily share what they do with their partner online. While this is certainly beneficial, some couples want some privacy in their marriage, and both want the conviction that marriage should be built on trust. So try to use social media very creatively.
6. Communication
Many couples go to restaurants and stare at the phone without speaking to each other.
If you forget how to communicate, the couple will be in danger. Misunderstandings will increase if communication is not done correctly. Put away the phones and talk to each other at least once a week. Or be careful not to take your phone into the bedroom. The most important of these is consciously making time to talk to each other.
7. The Phenomenon of and “We” not “I”
While it’s important to spend time with your partner. Just as everyone now emphasizes ‘me time’, it is very beneficial to emphasize time together.