It is not easy but not so hard to be a nice person. If we take care of certain things, we can become better people. Being nice means acting with kindness, and research suggests that kindness can positively impact your brain. Being kind is a self-reinforcing habit. We crave for the feel-good sensation of being kind, and thus one act of kindness can easily lead to another.
If you are fed up with negative comments, it is hard for you to be a nice person. While criticizing someone, try to adopt a more positive mindset. How can you reframe the situation and be more optimistic?
When you find your colleague has made a mistake in their work, pause for a moment before you criticize the person; maybe you can consider their mistake as an opportunity to be helpful rather than becoming annoyed at the person for not being perfect. Always stay truthful to yourself and your values, and express them honestly. Being nice doesn’t mean that you can never say “no” to people or that you do things that you don’t like to do.
Be Nice to Yourself
The way that we treat ourselves, including our self-talk, plays a significant role in how we treat others. After all, how can we treat others well if we are not nice to ourselves?
Observe how you talk to yourself and how you react when something goes wrong: do you blame or punish yourself? Do you call yourself names? By being patient and nice to ourselves, we make it easier for us to be nice to others. Life is full of changes. When we’re confronted with ideas, situations, or people that are unfamiliar, negative emotions can arise and that can make it difficult to be nice.
Open-mindedness is an essential quality for learning and absorbing information without being judgmental. Keeping an open mind can help you navigate unfamiliar territory while staying calm and relaxed.
It’s much easier to be nice when you’re comfortable with yourself and your environment—even amidst the many changes life throws your way.